Author Archives: Shocki, PhD, LMFT, LCSW

About Shocki, PhD, LMFT, LCSW

Dr Shocki has over thirty years experience in the behavior health field. He has founded and directs the Life Source Center, Inc., located in Plantsville Connecticut. Services include behavior health counseling dealing with relationship issues, persons struggling with various anxiety and depressive maladies and those individuals struggling to develop improved stategies to cope with the world around them. Dr. Shocki has also written a book entitled "Take Charge of Your Life or Someone Else Will" The book is available electronically free upon request at lifesourcecenter @aol.com.
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Want to Change but Can’t?  Here’s How

Change is not new to any of us.  Whether it’s getting in shape, speaking up for yourself or tackling tasks without procrastinating. The list can be daunting. Despite our best intentions, we often find ourselves stuck in the same patterns. Change is possible and it starts here.

Why We Resist Change

The root of resistance is often fear. The fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of upsetting others or even fear of success can all play a part. these fears can leave us frustrated and hard on ourselves, impacting our self-esteem. But remember, these feelings are normal and you’re not alone in your journey.

Strategies to Embrace Change

Let’s explore some practical ways to shift your mindset and behavior.

  • Acknowledge your resistance. Understand that resisting change is not a sign of mental illness; rather, it’s a natural reaction as your brain seeks equilibrium.
  • Take baby steps. Instead of focusing on a daunting ultimate goal, set small, achievable goals to pave your way to success.
  • Balance your life. Don’t let the change process consume you. Balance it with people, activities tor hobbies that bring you joy.
  • Prepare for setbacks. Have a backup plan if things don’t work out as you hoped. This reduces stress and keeps you moving forward.
  • Reinvent how you view yourself. Remember, changing is just something  you do, not who you are.                                                                                                                                                                                                              Let’s Hear From You!                                                                                                                                                                                                               This list is just the beginning. If you have strategies that have worked for you, write me, Dr, Ray Shocki at lifesourcecenter@aol.com and I may feature your tips in future posts.