Barriers to Achieving Positive Change
The following is the first of two blog presentations. The first, this one, deals with the barriers to achieving positive change. The second one deals with looking at ways to effectively achieving positive change.
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Regardless of the particular professed desire to change one’s behavior, there is a natural propensity to resist the implementation of such changes. Here are some of reasons change may be so hard to achieve.
- Influences from the past become ingrained. Exposed repetitively, as a child, to negative messages from parents and other authority figures, becomes a habit. Once a habit is formed, it will naturally defend itself and resist, even change for the better.
- It’s easier to deal with the known present than an unknown future. The brain is designed to find peace in knowing the predictability of the present. An unknown future creates worry and not feeling in control.
- It may mean having to adjust to a new you. Change, even positive change, may result in viewing yourself in a new light. This can lead to not feeling comfortable with the perceived new personality changes.
- It will mean giving up secondary gains of staying the same. In order to get something, you may have to give up something. This is hard to do.
- Immediate relief outweighs long term benefits. Focus is usually on feeling better as quickly as possible, rather than working toward being better as a lifestyle.
- The fear of failure is too emotionally crippling. Routinely being put down and humiliated, results in mistakes viewed as a reinforcement of self-doubt rather than viewed as opportunities for growth.
- The fear of success is too emotionally crippling. Focus is not on fearing actual success but rather fearing the expectations, demands and new responsibilities success would bring.
In our next blog, we will attempt to tackle this subject with effective coping strategies and techniques.
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