“In quarreling about the shadow, we often lose the substance”.  – Aesop In treating couples who are in dysfunctional relationships, it is not unusual to find that instead of dealing with the underlying reasons for the problems in their relationship, they focus on arguing about the surface irritants. These irritants soon mushroom into all encompassing barriers to the closeness they claim they had once experienced before they moved out of the “honeymoon stage” of their relationship.  They go around in circles, arguing about the same old things and ending upRead More